Before starting, I want to clear one thing that by narrating these incidents here I am not provoking anyone to support the wrong deeds, my motive is not to being judgmental for your family and friends, do not ditch them and be with them when they need you.
So, few days back I was blessed with a beautiful niece and everyone at home was trying to figure out a good name for her. In India especially if you belong to a small town it's still a tradition or a belief to get the horoscope and the initial alphabet for the name of the newborns from a knowledgeable astrologer and the same case is with my family. So the initial alphabet was ‘N' or ‘S' which was drawn by our very own beloved "Pandit JI" after analyzing all stars and planets and what not. With this alphabet, we all got our ultimate life goal and that is to come up with the best suggestion for the baby girl.
I and all my cousins started rolling out the names over the internet while the other generations have their own resources like the names of the heroes and heroines from the Mahabharat, Ramayan and all the other mythological assets we have. One old lady from the neighbor suggested "Narmada" which is the name of an Indian holy river and obviously we all rejected that name, suddenly we heard a voice "Soorpnakha" it was one of our oldest cousin who shouted this name whose story recently he has heard and we all were like what is he saying. Soorpnakha was Ravan's sister and I am assuming everyone knows that who was Ravan, then my mother explained to him that we don't keep the names of evil characters as it might bring evilness and that's true we Indian have Ram, Shyam, Shiv, Mohan and many more names associated with the good karma but we don't have names like Ravan, Duryodhana etc etc hold on then my mind jumped on one name and that is "Vibhishan" He was one of the brother of Ravan, a good man indeed who supported Lord Ram to bring her wife back from Ravan. But why not anybody named their children with his name apart from his goodness.
After thinking a lot I came up with the conclusion that why he is not as much respected as he should be for doing the good work for God itself, when he was on the right track and the reason is that he ditched his brother by disclosing the crucial information which was benefitted the Team Ram in defeating and killing Ravan.
I don't understand why people betray their friends and family, why my closest friend has to chill and hang around with my enemy at my back. Just because I keep my personal life secretive that doesn't mean I am wrong and that don't give the right to my friends to judge me on the basis of that and why that friend trusted the other ones. I totally understand we live in the world of professionalism and you cannot stop talking to anyone just because your friend got a problem with that but hiding it from your friend whom you call it "best friend" "friend forever" was really a cool or justifiable thing? But still, I wish you well my friend because you may be turned out to be a "Vibhishan" this time for the support of the Ravan though, but I am a "Karan" who is always there for his friends.
Yeah so coming back on the girl name we decided it to be "Nandini" so my dear Nandini just be a "Karan" for your friends, not a Vibhishan because there is a saying for him "Ghar ka bhedi Lanka dhaye".
